Sometimes we think we love someone, when what we love is how they or being with them, makes us feel about ourselves.

One of the things I love teaching inside of my programs is to practice being in a relationship with the Universe, the way you would want to with your man.

Mental space is just as important, if not more important, than the physical space you take in your relationship.

There are so many subtleties in dating and relationships that can impact the way you’re showing up, the way you’re being perceived, and the experiences you’re attracting. And the best way to become attuned to these subtleties is to notice the tendencies in what you say and how you act, and how you feel in your body.

Consider the subtle ways you are belittling your partner and notice -- like truly notice -- the ways it is blocking love in your relationship.

The next time you find yourself frustrated with your man, have some compassion and remember that just like you, he too is on an ever-unfolding path.​

The more she tries, the more he pulls away. The more he pulls away, the more she feels sad and bad for herself – which makes her want to try even harder. The antidote? Stopping the over-giving, over-thinking and over-doing in its tracks.

The truth is, over-giving, over-analyzing, and “performing” to get him to love you is actually the exact thing that’s in the way of him loving you.

When you notice yourself in that space, dig a little into your fear and lean back for the answer of your most empowered self.

The truth is, you will never quite excavate all of your past wounds by digging in, but you can get most of it. That last little bit can only come from taking the leap, a stand for yourself and making new empowered choices.

You can drop the charade, put down the spatula, and simply live your best life - all while telling and showing him that you like and appreciate him.

Not only is it important to take space from each other, or from thinking about each other, but we also have to offer our partners the space to go through their own shit without trying to understand where they’re at every step of the way.

You, my goddess, have much better ways to be spending your time and energy than wasting it away stressing about, thinking about, and worrying about the new guy in your life. So I want to help you save some of it. There are a few ways you can spot the difference between a guy who’s taking his time or wasting yours.

Like with most women I work with, chances are you’re playing on both ends of the spectrum - in some ways selling yourself short, and in other ways, asking for things you can actually learn to do more for yourself.

Without the necessary awareness, your inner child and his are the ones having fights, being defensive, getting overly emotional, and being all-around triggered. The first step is awareness: my inner child is afraid.

The sweet spot is in finding the balance between the energies within you. Are you truly balancing the “doing” energy of the masculine, with the “being” energy of the feminine?

Before stressing yourself and your partner about planning more exciting and romantic moments together, try bringing romance into the micro-moments - and watch your relationship become like new.

Remember those days when you lived in separate homes and could do your own things and excitedly get together for date nights? It can still be that way.

You don’t need to be a martyr to your cosmic imprint, soul contracts or generational patterns. You get to heal and choose a new way.

A man pulling away in the early days of your connection is pretty common and yes, it’s very uncomfortable for you. The masculine energy desires freedom, and when he starts to fear that he’s losing it, he’s likely to pull back a little while. That being said, ghosting you all together is never an acceptable approach.