The SELF method, works.

“Hey”, he says. “I’m just calling to see if you guys got there. Ok, great. Have fun, I love you.”

For too long I chose to do the “nice” thing, the considerate thing, the thoughtful thing.

Making myself overly available in abundant supply. And while it was sweet, it would investably as human nature would have it, be taken for granted. 

But I’ve been doing some deep reflecting lately on the kind of relationship dynamic I want to be in, and it is hands down the one where he’s reaching for me and I’m happy to be wrapped up in his arms.

So this time, when I drove the kids and I out of town for the weekend to visit my family, I didn’t text him when we got there to let him know we’d arrived (something he hadn’t even asked for) -

and the response was exactly what I wanted. 

Him reaching for me and me being so happy to hear from him, which feels best for both of us.

The more I center in my self the less I’ve got to reach outside of me and the more I draw in exactly what I want into my reality.

The SELF method, works.