Binge Dates

This one is for my single ladies.

I know how it feels to desire to be swept away by a man, lost in time and completely in flow.

And yet…

Time and time again, I see the same pattern to be true.

A woman goes on a date with a man. They were supposed to have brunch, and since he was so enjoying her company, that brunch turned into a walk, window shopping, park-hopping and hours of kissing.

That brunch turns into an 8-hour date.

Sounds ideal, doesn’t it?

The issue here, although I wish it wasn’t the case, is that he gets his fill.

Especially if you have a few of these “binge” dates with him, back to back.

Allow me to explain.

Have you ever eaten too much of one thing, that you weren’t able to stomach even the thought of taking another bite for at least a few weeks?

In this case, a few weeks in between your long glorious binge dates can feel like devastating heartbreak for you.

You feel unseen, dismissed, utterly confused.

And so continues the cycle of feeling disappointed by men.

I know how tempting it can be to lose yourself on the first couple of dates, especially when you feel equally into each other and the chemistry is brimming.

And still, I urge you to take it slow.

The slow burn will always serve you better in the long run.

Keep your dates short(ish) and sweet. Savouring the date and leaving the both of you wanting more.

This isn’t about game playing, it’s about having fun and leaving room for more.

When you do it all upfront, one of you will get too full and lose the interest. It’s human nature. And what’s the rush when you might have a lifetime together, or at least a few years?

The slow burn allows for your story to unfold, one page at a time.

And plus, you had a whole life before you met this man, right? Where did it all go?

Please, don’t shoot the messenger.

I am simply here to share what I know for sure.

The slow burn allows your budding relationship to thrive, rather than be put out quickly.

Are you willing to try it?

With love,

Diana