Could it really be as easy as giving him space and being in my own energy?

My husband and I got into a quarrel, and I understood - he was really tired.

He asked me to do something, I gave a bit of a comment in response and he replied from his inner child being completely irrational.

I stayed calm and told him I’d give him space.

I walked away, which is new for me; normally I’d make a side comment, dig my feet in, become a victim…blame.

I just remained in my own energy.

I recognized what he was going through, walked away and did my own thing.

I got ready, I cleaned up, I unpacked and then 45 minutes later we had to leave.

He came and met me and said, ‘Can I have a hug? I want to apologize for how I acted and in hindsight here are two ways I could have handled that instead.”

I am floored. Like it almost makes me emotional because that is a better response than I ever could have had than by talking at him, yelling, fighting back, telling him he’s wrong, staying in his space.

Could it really be as staying in my own energy? Is that the recipe?

It just was so clear and simple and unfolded easier than it ever has in the past.”

This from my client earlier today. THIS is what I do this for. To witness this kind of harmony between the masculine and feminine, even in the imperfect messiness of life and relationships. 

Then she went on to ask why this is. Why men do so much better with spaciousness.

My response might blow you away.