How You Might be Making Him Feel Insecure Too
Your man was captured by your fun, life-loving self. The woman with a smile that could light up a room. The woman who had a full-time life and made room for him in it, too.
And then something switched.
The light started to get a little dimmer. The anxiety started creeping up a little more often. The fights started getting more intense.
The woman he fell in love with is fading away and he doesn’t know where she’s gone.
He pulls away, and you move in closer. The distance between you has never felt so big.
Your insecurities rise as he steps further away from you.
His insecurities rise as you get more intense with your fire.
But you never stopped to consider that.
The only thing on your mind has been how he’s making you feel and what you need & want out of the relationship.
More commitment, more romance, perhaps even a marriage proposal.
You’re fixated on what you want and can’t see how you’re impacting him all the same.
He’s triggering your insecurities, you’re triggering his.
But you never thought of it this way. Trust me I know, because I’ve been there too.
If you’re feeling bad reading this, don’t. Even now, knowing all that I do - I catch myself making the same mistakes!
So I’ve been reflecting on the Diana that Jack fell in love with. She’s not that far away; I just need to remember her a little more often - not only because she’s easy to love, but also because I really enjoy being her.
With love,
Diana