Is Control A Masculine Trait?

I’m very controlling, which means I show up with a lot of masculine energy.

I’ve heard this said too many times to count.

Hell, I’ve probably said it myself.

And while I get the connection, it never quite sat right with me.

While controlling energy may be associated to more toxic masculine traits, there is nothing divine about it.

I no longer see it as being feminine, or masculine.

I see it as what it truly is at its core, a fear response.

And oh my goodness, do I know about the fear response of control.

I have been undoing the subtle ways I try to control for a solid decade now.

Getting honest with myself about the underpinning motivation to know the outcome, create the outcome, force the outcome…

And it is none other than fear.

A lack of trust.

In other words, a lack of love.

Tuned in to the energy of love, of connection with the divine source, it’s laughable to think I could control the outcome of anything.

But of course, my mind resists this.

Because I have plenty of evidence to show I have been very successful at controlling and creating outcomes.

But let’s be honest, the fruits of those labours were nowhere near is bountiful as those when I surrendered into trust.

When I allowed myself to receive guidance and support.

So, no, you’re controlling side doesn’t make you seem more masculine. It makes you seem afraid.

How about that?

With love,

Diana