Maybe what you perceived as selfish is actually one of his best qualities
When we first started working together 4 weeks ago she came into our first call frustrated by what she perceived as selfish behaviour from her partner.
She wanted him to make some lifestyle changes as they prepared to have a baby.
And he was doing it. He’d made massive changes. But she wanted more.
So guess what was happening at home?
Pointing out his missteps. And then instead of a sexy night baby making, they ended up in intense conversations instead.
Fast forward to our most recent call, she gets on the call saying…
“We haven’t argued in two weeks. Things are amazing. He even bought me flowers. You say that women are the alchemists in relationships, and I am seeing just how true that is.”
So how did we get from arguing daily to no arguments for two weeks in less than a month?
By seeing what is going RIGHT. She could celebrate her man and thank him for all the changes he was making. AND she began to see for herself how much she could actually learn from HIM. Maybe he isn’t so selfish after all? Maybe he’s simply relaxed. And she could take a page from his book.
She also realized some of the things in her own life that had her feeling most triggered. Times of day. Work situations. Where she was in her cycle. And she made a vow to herself that those were no go zones - she would not bring up hard sh*t during these certain times.
And lastly, she started seeing the subtle ways he was providing for her. And the more she saw them, and acknowledged them, the more they kept coming. This is the good nature of men that we absolutely adore over here at the SOL.
When you drop the fight in your body, you open yourself to receive both the subtle and significant ways men show up for you. And it’s delicious.
When you’re ready to drop the fight in your relationship, or with the men you’re dating and open your heart to the goodness he wants to pour into you when you give him space to do that, you can message me on Instagram “Ready to receive.”