Power without armor.
I’ve seen the resistance around this conversation - the fear that softness means being quiet, palatable, or disconnected from your truth. I want to be clear: that’s an interpretation, not the invitation.
Softness is not about shrinking.
It’s not about never being triggered.
It’s not about silencing yourself to keep the peace.
If there is a softening, it’s
✨ not bracing for a fight
✨ not armouring for disappointment
✨ not needing to prove, defend, or harden
Picture this.
The other day I was driving with Jack in the passenger seat (this is rare because he loves to drive and I love to be driven ;). I was tired, under the weather, and when I went to park, I came in at a weird angle. He asked, “Do you want me to park?”
There was a time when I would’ve felt the need to prove something. A time when I would’ve said no, not because I wanted to, but because I was braced.
This time, I felt the truth in my body. I get to receive this
So I said, “Yes.”
He parked the car.
We held hands and walked to his parents house.
Happy and unbothered.
That is not submission or performance. That is power without armour.
There is a version of your humanity that genuinely gets to enjoy life so much more. Who lets more things roll off her back while she takes a deep breath in, smiles and marvels at her life.
Blog #13:
Title: He cannot revere you without this one thing
I’ve been contemplating what creates the most magical relationships.
The ones where the woman feels completely adored and the man feels like it’s the pleasure of his life to adore her.
And what I’ve come to know over the last decade of supporting women to meet their matches and deepen the love with their existing partners is this:
He can’t revere you without your respect.
Now before you go throwing your feminist shade…
This is not what you think it is. I’ll ask you to take a deep breath and put aside any patriarchal ideas for a moment and consider -
That you respecting him is a reflection of your own self respect.
That you would only be in a relationship with a man you can see through the most amazing lens.
This isn’t about pedestalizing. It’s about the journey of loving yourself and bowing at your own feet that it feels like a natural extension to offer him the same. You in your divinity, seeing him in his.
When he feels that you respect him as a human, as a man, as a provider and protector through something as simple as actually respecting his point of view his natural instinct to love, revere and take care of you is turned all the way up.
I choose the version of my life where I can put the fight down and enjoy this man I prayed for for so long.
What do you choose?
There’s a special Portal of Love offer dropping soon, to help open your heart and warm your body to allow life to feel like an exquisite unfolding with your love at the center of it all.