You make the energetic shift. He makes the physical one.
I’ve watched this play out more times than I can count over the last 10 years.
You want a man who holds your hand.
Who wraps his arms around you.
Buys you flowers.
Calls just to say hello.
Remembers the little things.
Plans dates.
Makes slow, intentional love to you.
And yet, receiving that can feel so hard.
We hint. We ask lightly. We ask loudly. We get playful. We get frustrated. And still… nothing shifts.
But here’s the secret:
🔑 Shift the lens you see him through.
I’m not talking about overlooking red flags or elevating a man who hasn’t earned your affection. I’m talking about the good men. Especially in long-term relationships, where familiarity makes us forget their brilliance.
Try this instead:
✨ Practice seeing his goodness.
✨ Amplify his strengths.
✨ Let your appreciation be felt.
Not as a strategy…but because you choose to see him through a more generous lens.
When you feel that, and he feels you feeling it? When he sees himself through YOUR loving lens…His physical expression of love transforms.
One of my clients, married nearly 20 years, started doing this. She shifted her lens to:
“Wow, what a man. What a partner. What a provider.”
And suddenly? Her husband was noticing tiny things, like a hole in her gloves. And when she came home…he was sitting at the table, sewing them for her. Not because they couldn’t buy new ones. But because he wanted to care for her.
That’s what happens when a man feels your lens of love.
Most women walk around with the opposite lens:
“I don’t know if I can trust you to be who I need.”
Will you follow through? Will you show up? Will you grow with me?
What if you experimented with a more generous lens?
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