The Practical Steps of Breaking a Pattern

When you find yourself in a familiar situation, like say, a guy you just met was calling and texting you consistently, and then suddenly he’s taking days to get back to you - ask yourself, “how would I normally react in this situation?”.

Chances are you tried to act “breezy” as my client calls it, texting and leaving a voicemail with the best casual tone you could muster up.

Take clear note of your usual modus operandi, and remind yourself of all the reasons why you are NOT going to react in that same way.

Yes, this will be highly uncomfortable -- no one said breaking a pattern was easy: you are breaking apart an old way of being and all the belief systems that underlie it.

But what happens when you commit to feeling the deep discomfort of not reacting in your usual way? 

You, my dear, start breaking your pattern.

So go ahead, feel all the feelings.

And THEN, come out of the other side with a better understanding of yourself, and either an openness to know more and/or a decided next best step.

*Be mindful of setting steps you know you won’t do - this keeps you in another pattern of self-defeat.

*Be mindful of not setting a bold enough step because you’re afraid of what might actually change.

It’s a dance ladies and gentlemen, and one worth practicing.

If you have any questions about breaking your patterns, there’s a good chance I have answers. Get in touch and let’s see what my breakthrough sessions can do for you (this is for womxn who are more committed to change than holding onto old stories!).

With so much love,
Diana