Why My Relationship With Jack Was My First Ever Secure Relationship – A 3-Part Series

When I reflect on why my relationship with Jack transpired differently (loving, abundant, reciprocal) than all my relationships in the past, a few key themes come up for me.

One of them being, stepping into being the chooser vs waiting to be chosen.

I was very aware what a catch Jack was (is!).

♥Kind human

♥Reliable

♥Consistent

♥Intelligent

♥Handsome

♥Tall ;)

♥Funny

♥Interesting and interested

♥Cultured

♥Family-oriented

♥Ambitious

♥Creative

♥Honestly, I could go on.

And, for the first time ever, I truly believed myself to be an exceptional catch, too.

I had always known I was a winner, but I hadn’t embodied it.

My conscious mind knew there were all these logical reasons I was a catch, but my subconscious had an entirely different story.

This story showed up by over thinking, over doing and over giving in my relationships.

And after my last heartbreak, I was over it.

The real me was ready to emerge.

The Goddess me was ready to take my thrown and have my divine partner, sitting not above or below, take his thrown next to me.

I navigated the start of this relationship with a new narrative that felt deeply true, mind, body and spirit:

“Jack is an absolute catch, and so am I. Yes, I want this to work out. And yes, I would be sad to lose this connection, but I truly believe it would be a big loss for him, too.”

This guided me like a North star, helping me to come back to my innate worthiness.

Not overreaching or stretching to make things happen, but able to relax and trust that if it is meant for us, it will be.

For the first time, I didn’t feel like it was on me to “make it happen.”

And he responded by mirroring that narrative right back to me.

Stay tuned for Parts 2 and 3 for the other significant changes I made with Jack that allowed this to be my first ever secure relationship.

With love,

Diana