Do You Find it Hard to Tell Your Guy How You Feel About Him?

Around this time last year, I hosted a 5-day challenge where I asked the women in the group, "do you find it hard or easy to tell someone how you feel about them? And why?"

The response was overwhelming.

There were a few unicorns in there who said they found it easy.

But most responses looked like this:

"𝗘𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝗮𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗿."

"𝗜 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴. 𝗜 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝗳 𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗜 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 (𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗶𝗳 𝗜 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺) 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺. 𝗦𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘄, 𝗜 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗱."

"𝗛𝗮𝗿𝗱, 𝗜 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀".

"𝗜 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲. 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘁!"

Let's just say, it's a loaded question.

So what if I made it a little easier for you?

What if, instead of saying "I love you" before you feel safe enough to do so, you told him how much you appreciate him?

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 + 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀.

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝘀.

How do you think that would make him feel? And better yet, how do you feel?

My hope is, a little safer to express your feelings to him.

Because here's the thing, without revealing any of your feelings to someone, you can't connect to them on an emotional level - which is the only place love grows.

𝗬𝗲𝘀, 𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹.

𝗬𝗲𝘀, 𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝗲𝘅𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗽𝗵𝘆𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆.

𝗔𝗡𝗗, 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹, 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗳𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂.

Your ability to be confident in your feelings makes him feel safe enough to access his own - a place he hasn't been welcome to explore before.

If you're feeling stuck in wanting to tell your guy how you feel about him but utterly terrified of doing so, tell him and show him that you appreciate him, WHILE, maintaining balance in your own life.

This is the ultimate display of confident appreciation and will have him curious about you in all the best ways. 

With love,
Diana