From projecting my frustration onto him to letting him be my hero

Last night I had a really rough time with my kids while my husband was out helping his god mother with some errands -

I’m talking real real tough.

I felt so depleted that once the kids went to sleep I sat in my bed and stared at the wall.

When Jack got home, he came into our room to see me. I asked if he could give me a gentle back rub, I needed some tenderness I said.

He got into the bed with me and caressed me just as I desired it and then went on to tell me the most hilarious stories about his evening.

I almost peed I laughed so hard.

It didn’t used to be this way. There was a time when he’d come home and rather than turning to him for tenderness I would tell him how hard the night was and insinuate in the most unconscious way that he should feel guilty for it somehow.

I would project my tiredness and frustration onto him,

Today, I can experience a challenging AF evening with my kids and not catastrophize any of it in my mind or drag my partner into my funk.

I soften and lean towards him letting him feel like my hero instead of feeling like he’s under attack.

Your relationships get to be the safest, most fun and enjoyable playgrounds for your soul’s expansion. I promise this.

If feeling and being this way in your relationship speaks to the deepest parts of you, I invite you to apply to the Portal of Love. 

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