How to Inspire Him to Change

Crying and showing him how much he’s hurt and disappointed you should inspire him to change, shouldn’t it?

I know you’ve thought this before because I have, too.

If he loves me then he’ll change this thing for me. Surely he doesn’t want me to feel this way.

You’re right.

A good man would never want to hurt you.

And the truth is that if he feels that’s what he’s doing to you, he may simply decide you deserve something - and someone else all together.

Because although he feels for you when you’re sad and disappointed, that isn’t what gets him jumping out of his seat to “change”.

Especially not in a way that’s truly sustainable.

What DOES inspire him is your trust.

Your faith in him.

Your belief in his ability and capacity.

Now THAT gets his engines turning.

One of the ways you can put this into action is rather than telling him all the ways he’s doing it wrong, tell him what you DESIRE instead and how you know he can PROVIDE this for you.

That’ll turn his provider instincts all the way up.


With love,

Diana