If You Call Yourself A Hopeless Romantic

If you call yourself a hopeless romantic, I invite you to ask yourself -

What makes a story romantic?

What you’ll find is a story of star-crossed lovers who can’t be together, or being together despite all of the odds.

You’ll find the idea that love has to be hard to be worth it.

The greater the obstacle

The greater the challenge

The greater the love

And I know this because this used to be my way.

This leads to unconsciously putting yourself in situations, circumstances and relationships that are hard.

Because that is the story line you believe to be true.

It’s gotta be hard to be worth it.

Good things can’t come with ease.

There may even be a story of not being worthy of good things at all.

So what do you do with that?

You become aware of it.

You sit with it.

You face it without making yourself wrong.

You name specific ways this pattern shows up in your life and relationships.

And you decide what else gets to be true.

Choose to look for evidence that love also gets to look like ease and harmony.

That love also gets to exist with mutual desire and reciprocity.

That there get to be circumstances that allow for your relationship to flow.

Look for evidence.

Lock it in.

Time and time again.

Surround yourself with people and guides who support you in holding this new vision.

Allow it to be easy.

Walk relentlessly towards this.

And call it in closer, by choosing to believe that it’s already done.

xo,

Diana