If You Believe Speaking Up is "Relationship Suicide" -- This is For You

Are you afraid that if you tell a guy where you'd like to go for dinner or if you voice your opinion, that he's going to think you're difficult?

This is the conversation I recently had with a client.

Because of her high powered position by day, she's afraid that guys will immediately peg her as tough and intimidating.

So what does she do?

She stuffs her feelings, opinions, and ideas - out of fear of being seen that way and ultimately, losing the guy.

And guess what happens?

Like a pressure cooker with no room for release, she explodes.

She lashes out with angry comments and "fighting" words. The resentment builds, and she decides she's had enough.

We discovered that she has a deep fear of expressing herself. She believes that in order to keep the peace, she must keep her opinions to herself; that her thoughts are better off unexpressed.

Because of this, her thoughts fester and she gets frustrated.

She has so much to say, but she won't say it.

Until of course, she can't take the pressure any longer.

Spewing fire, she finally blurts out all the things she's been wanting to say for months.

The guy is shocked out of his pants. And the shame they both feel is too much to bear.

And so the relationship ends.

And she proves to herself that it is indeed scary as F**K to express herself...

This can all be avoided, with a little communication along the way.

But first, she's got to change the belief that saying what she feels is relationship suicide. 

She's got to choose a new belief.

Something that empowers her, and others.

Something like, "Saying what I feel in a loving way keeps my mind and relationships healthy". 

And let’s be honest, how can a man really like you, if he doesn’t really know you?

So my question for you is, what beliefs are holding you back from love? 

Sit with this and let me know how I can help.

With love,
Diana