She Was Sabotaging Her Love Life And Didn't Even Know It

I just got off an impromptu “Ask Me Anything” session with 12 ladies that I invited to join me in a private Zoom room - and one of the major themes that kept coming up was balancing a woman’s masculine and feminine energy.

Let’s be clear that whether you are a man or woman, you can absolutely tap into and play with both.

One of the women on the call is an exceptional life coach, and we discovered that interestingly enough, her coaching skills may have been sabotaging her love life.

Without realizing it, she was going into “coach” mode on her dates and loved having the opportunity to solve their problems.

Problem-solving is a highly masculine energy.

And what she noticed is that when she entered this very curious space and put on her coach hat, she would spend the entire evening listening - and them speaking.

When what she really desired was to have them be interested in her.

The roles were reversed.

She took on the masculine role of leading the conversation when what she really desired was to be in a more relaxed feminine space.

So her assignment was to practice keeping the coaching conversations to strictly coach/client relationships.

I totally understand her.

I have to try my darndest not to coach Jack unless we have specified a time to have a “coaching session” together.

Another woman on the call played on the opposite end of the spectrum.

She was so used to being in her feminine and needed to practice taking a little more charge from time to time, in a way that didn’t tip her over to the masculine side completely.

So we talked about the strategy of “opening” the door but not pushing the guy all the way through.

What this means in practical terms is that there’s a guy she is currently interested in, and she can’t quite get a read on how he feels.

So rather than asking “hey, do you feel for me what I feel for you?”, she would try saying something like, “I like you”, or “I feel really great around you”, and then lean back and allow him to take it from there.

This was a powerful takeaway for her, to realize that there was this empowering place where she could play; a place where she could elegantly dance between her masculine and feminine energies without having to be fully inside of either one.

It essentially came down to noticing when she was trying too hard or when she was not being honest about how she felt.

This is a delicate balance and something that feels a little different for each and every one of us.

It’s a dance I help the women I work with 1:1 or in my masterminds to become more graceful in.

So I’m curious, is this something you have considered for yourself? Are you aware of the different energies and how to use them both to your highest service?

I would love to hear all about it!

With love,
Diana