Why Love Needs Space

You’ve heard me talk a lot about appreciation in relationships, the importance of making your partner feel seen and appreciated – and the necessary piece of appreciating yourself.

Another ingredient to healthy relationships?

SPACIOUSNESS.

So often we keep a really tight fist around our relationships - trying to control the outcome, how the person shows up or what the person does and doesn’t do.

We also spend a lot of time either being together or thinking about each other. And over time, this suffocates the potential for growth.

...because...we need SPACE...to grow!

I know, sometimes I surprise myself with my own genius.

Not only is it important to take space from each other, or from thinking about each other, but we also have to offer our partners the space to go through their own shit without trying to understand where they’re at every step of the way.

Which requires trust...confidence...and so much letting go of control.

Inside of this space new ideas blossom, we gain clarity around the issues we’re facing, and we actually get the chance to miss each other

If you’re inside of a challenge in your relationship and there’s something you’re really wanting your partner to change - give it some space. Drop it for a moment. Allow some space for the two of you to breathe and come back to the conversation at a later date with a different energy.

If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, the answer is probably not in forcing them to spend more time with you - but rather in taking the time and space to reflect on the way you’ve been showing up and the way you’d like to show up moving forward.

And if your partner is feeling overwhelmed and stressed, rather than trying to fix their problems or insist on a weekend away together, try offering them the space to be alone to just chill.

Yes, time together is important. Communication about your challenges is necessary.

AND still, I invite you to see how creating the feeling of spaciousness in your relationship will start to open you up to new possibilities, new growth, and newfound depths of appreciation.

This can be challenging to do, I know. That’s why having a support system is crucial when stretching yourself into new ways of being.

If you’re reading this and thinking, that sounds great in theory but I would find this incredibly hard to do – then let us support you.

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With love,

Diana