You’ve probably asked a similar question before. Or something that sounds like,

“Am I doing that avoidant thing again where I meet a good man but I’m still not interested?”

Men and masculine energy are like bees to honey when you’re feeeeeling and pouring into YOURSELF.

The continuous loop of talking about dating, why you aren’t dating, who you’re dating and why it’s not working out IS going to keep your life partner at bay. The thing you focus on grows.

I know you’ve seen the women before you give their all for the ones they love.

The truth is that if he feels that’s what he’s doing to you, he may simply decide you deserve something - and someone else all together.

And while he was busy looking for solutions, all I wanted was to talk about the foundational things I feel need addressing.

Recently a client asked if she should cancel the dates she had coming up because she wasn’t in the “right” energetic state after a couple of disappointing dating experiences.

When we work together I’ll help you clearly see where you’re being “picky” vs being in your standards.

While you know this isn’t a pattern you want to carry forward, you find yourself slipping into not only taking care of your kids, but your man, too.

If there’s something in your outer experience that’s not desirable, take a moment to drop the judgement, and lean into curiosity (genuine “oh this is interesting” curiosity) and ask, what am I doing, saying, feeling, accepting or choosing that’s aligning me to this experience?